Tuesday, August 27, 2013

How it all exploded

Hey everyone sad news to report, we found out last night that this adoption is definitely not going happen. We obviously are hurting, but feel very protected in the midst of it all. We always knew this was a possibility, but it is still rough.

We found out that there are multiple families who had been promised rights to the child and the mom was apparently expecting to get something out of it somehow.

We are so thankful that we entered in with good boundaries already in place. We didn't give her money. She doesn't know where we live. All that is really lost is the hope that we had for this child to be part of our family and minimal fees to the lawyer to did some calls for us.

On a good note, our home study is done and we are approved for adoption in general. So if we found another private/independent adoption opportunity we could act immediately. You never know what will come up, especially from a "friend of a friend" type of situation and we're willing to look into other opportunities that may come up.

We are going to adopt, just not this little girl, so any funds that were donated will sit in an adoption account until another child comes along. Thank you all SO MUCH for your love, support, and believing we'll be good parents when we get the chance someday.

Things we're thankful for:
We found out now, not at the court date a few weeks from now!

We know where she'll be and its a great situation that actually is an answer to many prayers we prayed for her.

For the comfort of God walking through this with us. We talked about it last night and we really believe that we did what we were supposed to. We had boundaries, were prayerful and felt God's direction. In the midst of it all falling apart He's here too. I feel like in times like these, the hardest situation we've been in, it is our "Isaac". Just like when God asked Abraham if he would give his son, and still follow him even though it meant what he loved most. If this child is taken away will I still trust? Will I still love God? What will spill out from the depths of my soul automatically because it is what is actually there? And at the end of the day God is still Good even though it hurts. I feel His presence more in pain than normal life.

Psalm 34:18 The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Job 5:18... For he wounds, but he binds up; he shatters, but his hands heal.

Friday, August 23, 2013

40 Days in and an update

Here's some stats on where we are:

Days since we got a call: 40

Lawyers involved: 5, with a 6th pending when we find the dad

Pages written for home study: 36

Age of child: about 12 weeks

Times we've met mom: 4

Homestudy completed!: 1!!!!!!(big deal in so short of time)

States involved: 2

Papers needing to be signed: A million (feels like)

Funds raised: 6000+ in 16 days!

Tickets to the court date: 2

Dogs rescued: 0 :( thats another story...

Our biggest need right now- PLEASE PRAY- is to 1) Find the father and 2) that he'll work with us.

I'm not a private investigator but I'm pretty good at Facebook-stalking. He must sign or the other state won't work with us. And he could be anywhere....

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

A BIG God for Big asks.

Right now we have a ton of updates, and they all literally happened in the last 24 hours. I'm reminded of how mighty God is in the middle of it all. We weren't looking to start this specific adoption process, we didn't have the money, didn't think we could handle the drama, and were too afraid of the uncertainty.

But God is at work despite our weakness. He is strong.

First off I'm amazed and excited to say that we are FULLY FUNDED!!!! Thank you Jesus and everyone who helped out. We were in awe of how many people who we'd not seen in years, never met, or who we knew really could't afford it chipped in to help. This means that we will be able to pay all the lawyers expected and not have to worry about how much they are working for us. We will keep the site open in case anyone else feels led to give towards travel expenses. We know that we will be going down to a court date, and past that we really don't know what it will cost us in the picking her up process.

When this adoption came up, Josh said something that has stuck with me. Before we started this our faith was too small to see and understand what God would do. We knew he wanted us to adopt, so we started on the track that seemed most logical and safe to us. We knew it would be uncomfortable to be in direct contact with birth parents, we knew that there was huge risk involved since the parent can always change their mind at the last minute, we knew we didn't have the money . When all of the sudden we were adopting through a private adoption with all of those exact issues at play I realized that God might just want to flex for us and build our faith in the process.

So with that said, here are some things that we ask you to pray for, because God can do more than we ask and imagine and so far he's directing us to adopt this little girl.

Please pray that we can 1) find out when and 2) be able to be at the court date. It will determine what the state does in the baby's case.

Please pray specifically for the judge that day and that their decision would be quick and in our favor.

Please pray for the foster home that the baby is in, that she is safe and taken care of. Pray for transition and that she'll be able to bond with us pretty quickly.

Please pray for the mom (who is in jail right now). We sent her a letter today. Pray that it is well recieved and that there will be no hiccups in the adoption because she is in jail.

Please pray that the remainder of our home study goes quickly and that we can find out who to send it to in the other state.

Please pray that we can find a lawyer in the other state that is willing to work with us because it is a little bit complicated and not something that happens a lot at this age of a child.

Please pray for our emotions through this whole thing. Its pretty crazy and it is easy to not want to hope because of the risks, and 5 minutes later feel like everything is already done and then go back to the uncertainty again.

Thank you all so much!